All cried out

What a long day! I figured I'd finish it off with updating my blog since so many of you are anticipating the outcome of our meetings today. Matt was post call today and didn't get much sleep last night. Call really means "30 hour inpatient shift". These are long days for Matt. Matt was a good sport to agree to come to the hospital and participate in such deep and emotional conversations when he was going into them feeling worn down. Our meetings started at 2:30 with the palliative care team here at Primary Children's hospital. The last hour of our meeting the transplant team joined us. We talked to everybody for 2 1/2 hours. Transplant told us that after a long review of the literature, the CV surgeon and the rest of the team felt that Matthew would not be a candidate for either the LVAD or ECMO as a bridge to transplant. The risks far outweigh the benefits and they feel like the outcome would not end well for Matthew based on past literature (which is limited anyway because there aren't too many children needing LVAD or ECMO when they are less then two years out from transplant needing another heart). Furthermore, transplant told us that we've reached the end of the line in terms of treatment options available to Matthew. We could consider increasing Matthew's dose of Milrinone one last time in the future, but the team felt like the effects of the drug should be seen by now. Increasing Matthew's dose would also require a full time CICU stay. Furthermore, Matthew is too sick to come home. This may change in the future, but we are not anticipating his congestive heart failure getting better rather it will continue to get worse with time. We will most likely be inpatient until transplant. For now, Matt and I have decided to stay the course hoping and praying that, if it's the Lord's will, a heart will come for Matthew. He is happy and playful for the most part. You certainly would never guess that he was in end stage heart failure. If we start seeing other systems begin to fail, we want to take him home on hospice. There have been evidences of some organ damage as a result of his heart failure with his bowel and his gallbladder. So far his liver and kidneys (failure of these organs would require Matthew to be taken off the list) are doing okay. I am nervous because his kidneys are working extra hard as we are giving Matthew 3 dieretics 5 times a day to help remove the extra fluid his heart cannot get rid of on it's own. Matthew has lost over two pounds of fluid since we were admitted 10 days ago. I just wonder how much more his poor kidneys can handle. Transplant admitted that finding a good match for Matthew will be difficult because of his antibodies and his O blood type- he has to take an O heart. Matthew was listed as a status 2 on January 31st and then bumped up to a status 1A on March 15th. Transplant has only had a few offers which ended up not working out because of additional antibodies not listed in the system. This is discouraging! The rest of the conversations were based on Matthew's death. What we wanted, different scenarios of his death, what treatments we could withdraw from and when, DNR at home or at the hospital. On and on and on..... I literally think my tear ducts dried out from the tears I shed in that room! Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but that is the reality of our day. I really appreciate the love, support, and prayers from so many of you that have literally carried us through this day. Thank you!